Dan’s big on viewing our emotions like clouds passing by. Just as we can’t control the weather, we can’t (directly) control our emotions. When we can accept whatever emotion we’re experiencing and then DO WHAT NEEDS TO BE DONE, we enter a different level of being.
As Dan says,
So, you feelin’ a little funky? Alright. It is what it is. Now, ask yourself, “Self, what needs to be done?” (Make sure you address yourself as “Self”--very important part of the process. :)
Then... JUST DO IT.
I also happen to be reading at this time a book called "Happy at Last" by Richard O'Connor. (sidebar: how awesome is the public library? I love to just stroll thru and pick up any random book that catches my eye.). Borrowing from Amazon.com:
In Happy at Last, psychotherapist Richard O’Connor offers new thinking about how we attain and maintain happiness, and he shows us that it doesn’t necessarily have to come at a high cost or in a big package. Rather, we can be in command of our happiness by learning to control how our minds work so that we can identify and savor the hidden positive aspects of everyday life. To do this, O’Connor provides us with a set of skills that will help us re-wire our brains to allow ourselves more joy.I am only a couple of chapters in, but the first two are pretty amazing, drawing on all these studies that show how the greater the wealth of the country, the more likely the people are to be miserable. How the Industrial Revolution put the "societal evolution" of man into warp speed, with no real hope of developing a suitable coping mechanism for a completely new way of life. I am not really good at explaining stuff.... just trust me, read it.
So what's all this about? To quote Abraham Lincoln, "Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be." So, consider my mind made up!